Posting The Positive

During junior high we noticed a shift in attitudes and self image and knew we needed to do something about it. The only way to overshadow negativity is to promote positivity online and in real life. Human interactions matter now more than ever. 


Our purpose is to see the good, share the good, and be the good both online and IRL. To go about our campaign, we received help from our principal, teachers, parents, and friends.  Our movement is all about spreading positivity not only online but IRL. We encourage people to get their schools and friends involved by following our instagram, @postingthepositive, and using our hashtag, #postingthepositive! You can also learn more about us at postingthepositive.com

Therapy Thought

At our clinic we met a girl who, having her phone taken away as a punishment, decided that she would rather die than live without her phone, and decided to take an entire bottle of Tylenol.... she is now on the liver transplant list and in extensive therapy.

We have seen an increase of children of all different walks of life develop severe anxiety. We have seen an increase in depression and severe OCD behaviors. We see these stem from phones (text messages) and social media. We have seen kids actually go through symptoms of withdrawal after parents have intervened and taken away their "link to the outside." We see changes in behavior, increased emotional outbursts, change in appetite, and insomnia. In some cases we have seen kids runaway so they can find a way to "feed" their addiction. But, in other cases, we have seen a great improvement with kids who are not permitted to go on social media as a treatment for a social media addiction and actually engage in the "real world.” They become more aware of what’s going on around them and tend to actually develop confidence in who they are.

Learning Together

Our daughter just received a phone a few months ago. We talked through all the rules and guidelines and committed to a plan we felt good about together. Even with her turning in her phone in every night, I got lax with checking through her texts and DMs on a regular basis. I woke up one morning and had the thought to check her phone immediately. I followed that thought and found some conversations going on in DM chats with strangers that were alarming. They started innocently but soon comments were being sent to her that had inappropriate and offensive content. I’m sure if it would have continued it would have gotten progressively worse.

My initial feeling was to get angry and fearful and remove everything from her. I talked with my husband and he wisely reminded me to not act out of a spirit of fear but of love. We spoke with our daughter in our car as we were driving (it’s a great place to start a natural conversation). We expressed our concerns and talked with her in a calm way about the changes we felt needed to be made. We let her come up with solutions and involved her in setting additional boundaries. The result has made a huge difference in our family technology use and has sparked additional opportunities to talk and increase our love and trust for each other. 
One thing I’m learning as a parent: It is just as important for us to trust her as it is for her to trust us!

Megan

When I pick up my device and stare into the screen I feel like Alice in Wonderland falling down the never-ending hole. I shut out everything. And everyone. My kids can’t tell if I’m sending an important carpool text, or scrolling through Instagram. Suddenly, like disappearing into a magical fog, I’m checked out. Forget lunches to be made, finding missing shoes, or looking for a child’s lost glasses. Nope. At this moment, my focus is my screen and I’m cultivating my relationship with it.